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Don't look.                 don't          even          try.
He'll beat you.
He will drink.
Don't look.

Don't look.              She          isn't          sick          like          you
She won't care.
won't even try.
Don't look.

If you were drunk, you deserved it.

Have lots of sex.
You are such a prude.

If he wanted it, you deserved it.

Always wear a bra.
Don't let anyone see it

If you looked, you deserved it.
Don't look.

Be thin. I don't care how.
Be fit.
     Stay at home.
    be independent
Don't tell anyone when he gives you bruises.
Don't tell anyone when she holds you down.
Don't choke on it.

If you got pregnant, it is your fault.

If you weren't awake to say no, you  deserved it.

Wear a dress.
Don't show too much skin.
"I want to see those tits, baby."
Don't look. Don't speak. They'll go away. Maybe.
If you aren't interested, you deserved it.

Be overqualified. They won't hire you.
Don't         even         try.
Don't                     even                    look.

Always carry a weapon.
Assault earns more time than rape
than           abuse
        than            being          a         woman

"Show me your legs"
Your media-perfect legs.

If you smiled, you deserved it.

There are women who have learned to extort their bodies.
We hate them.
They deserve it.

Don't breathe. Breathe, and you waste.
"God, you women are so expensive."

You'll want kids one day, even if it kills you. Even if you don't.

"Let me change your mind."
"You really mean yes."

As a woman I have learned,
the state only cares about me before I'm born
or if I'm pregnant.

As a woman I have learned
nothing is my own choice.

As I live I've learned
not everyone knows the Girl Scout Law
and how it deemed me
    too feminine to learn how to tie a knot.
I don't know why society thinks
I'd like to lay down and take it
that I enjoy being told
I am nothing except
a receptacle for its semen
and a birth canal for its culture

I am done being told  I deserve it.
Edit June 1st, 2013 I simply cannot keep up with these comments. I'm overwhelmed by the response this has gotten, and I'm overwhelmed by the kindness I've seen. Thank you all so much. It really makes everything worth writing when I see that I've touched as many people as I have. I will try to answer as much as I can, but if you have a specific question, it might be better to note, seeing as I'm still getting comments and it is incredibly hard for me to keep up with. Thank you all for all the favorites and comments! My first DD, guys, I am crying. <3

Edit May 30th, 2013: Thank you so, so much for all your kind words on this. I will try to keep everything in order with this and answer all of your questions. Thanks for all the favorites, they mean a lot. This is what keeps me at it, all of you, so thanks. <3

Full title: Things I Have Learned About Being a Woman (From High School Health Class)
Most triggers apply.
I got angry. I wrote.
(The spacing here may be odd, but that's because dA sucks with it's formatting. Sorry 'bout that)
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Things I Have Learned About Being a Woman by =Marashete packs a punch with a final line that will resound in your person regardless of your sex. ( Suggested by TwilightPoetess and Featured by Nichrysalis )
Oh my goodness Gracious this is a deep, Culture-shocking piece! I usually don't see great free verses with slashed out words or caps but they fit perfectly in. What really catches the eye is how the poem's words are structured, the crossed out swears, the large spaces between "Don't Even try". As a Rather feminist person this is showing an unequal world what it's like to be a woman and how society will judge you if you are pregnant or not a perfect image. What gets me the best is the use of "You deserved it" In some verses. When something like getting drunk or being beaten or such happens, all fingers point at the women in the case. I adore this poem, Amazing work!
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The style of the verse was a perfect support for the tone and message. The phrasing of the words and sentences was choppy, fragmented, abrupt... which set the tone for a narrator who had been previously terrorized into silence, and and only NOW driven to speak due to frustrated desperation.

I'd like to see more pieces that deal with other types of relationships and bonds that women can form. This poem largely covers the issues of women and sex, therefore mostly touching on a woman's relationship with the 'romantic other'. It would also be interesting to see other types of bonds explored, such as the relationship with other female friends, with mothers/fathers, with children.

Overall, a beautiful piece of work that skillfully summarizes harsh and ugly criticism to the hypocrisy with which women are viewed and treated in a patriarchal society.
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XeonartOmega Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
Even to this day...gender low
XxJennaKittyxX Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
I'm not gonna try to say I've felt your pain, because honestly I've no idea what you've gone through. But for whatever it's worth, and i hope it helps, I've seen my friends, my sister, my mother and  myself in such a sordid place. I wish i hadn't, and i'm sorry for everything it's caused you. But your poetry is amazing and beautiful despite the truth it exposes. Thank you for writing this. :'(
ActsofArt Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
maybe if we voice the sentiment enough someone will actually listen. (but I doubt it)
Marashete Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2013  Student General Artist
The goal is to make people listen.
Flamecloud Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you.
Thank you.
I wrote something close to this, and read it for a class project in English
and got into trouble, because it had "swear words"
and yet, the boy who wrote a poem which joked about: rape, abuse, and blow jobs, got an A
It has to be said somewhere
Marashete Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2013  Student General Artist
Wow. That's ridiculous, I'm sorry that happened to you.

Thank you :)
larrylive Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2013
Marashete Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2013  Student General Artist
Thank you!
adventuretimefan190 Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
This gave me chills, and it also angered me as a female. I am asexual, but people can't accept that someone is not interested in sexual activity. BECAUSE EVERYONE LOVES SEX. :steamed:

This makes me sick, as in it impacted me very deeply. It's just amazing and empowering. :pat:
Marashete Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2013  Student General Artist
Like anyone's orientation affects you personally! Yes, that angers me too.

Thank you!
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